When's It Gonna Be My Time

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 1 Corinthians 13:4 NIV

I shoulda called this piece 'Be Patient' but we all know that pill is just a lil bit harder to swallow!

We all know somebody, who's hooking up with somebody, or someone else who's just got engaged or someone who asked you to be best man, or someone who asked you to use your child to be flower girl in their wedding. Someone always seems to be hooking up with someone, old friends, new friends, random people stopping to tell you their amazing love story.

There's also that one married person who keeps telling you that it will happen in God's time, I'm not disputing that God does His thing in His own time, I'm just asking you nicely to SHUT UP cuz you got your partner and been through your process. You probably done forgot how hard it is to wait!! Thank you.

Keeping it real, we just want God to come through with some dates and times so we can know when our time is, but think about it, if He told you who, when and where you'd probably kick up another storm cuz you have all the details, you just can't wait to get there!

You stay wondering, asking, praying, seeking God, when is it gonna be my turn Lord? I've been single 3 years, I've been obedient, I've sought after You, I have done what You said, I feel like I've done, been through it all and through it all You have been my all, my everything, my only lover. See the thing I've noticed with people like this is that they stay close to God and the longer you stay close to God is the more He'll make you like Him and when that happens He's gotta find a partner that's just like you; just like Him. (I hope you can appreciate how few and far between these people are) God ain't tryna hook you up with no half-hearted, lukewarm Christian who falls at the FIRST SIGN of temptation. For all you know God has to probably bring someone fresh off the street and MAKE them your partner! One preacher said: "the reason you ain't getting with anybody like everybody else, is cuz you ain't LIKE EVERYBODY ELSE!" And how true is that? I'm not saying that those who have hooked up aren't legit, I'm just saying God has a time, ordained down to the very second of when you're supposed to meet your spouse.

What do I do in the mean time?

The hardest thing ever... Wait! Not the type of wait where you put everything on hold and sit doing nothing. No, the wait where you prepare. Have you ever really looked into your life and seriously considered if you're really ready for a spouse? What do you have to offer? What do you have to give? See being single is a time to prepare and what better way to prepare than to let the Holy Spirit guide you? He knows who your spouse is! I dare you to ask Him: what's his/her favourite meal so I can learn how to cook it, how does he/she like their coffee, do they even like coffee?!

My most favourite thing about being single is getting to spend time reading my Bible. To me marriage is a ministry and if you're in ministry you understand that it's just not about you! But being single you get to make it about you! I get to spend time with my Husband (Isaiah 54:5 if you're confused) I get to know Him, His precious Spirit and I SUBMIT (I know some people don't like that word let alone the action!) to Him, I do what He pleases and learn to dislike what He dislikes and it's amazing.

There is a difference between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman cares about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But she who is married cares about the things of the world—how she may please her husband. 1 Corinthians 7:34

So yeah I do wonder when's it gonna be my time, yeah I do wanna punch you in the neck if you're married telling me to 'just wait' (not really😂) but I know, I've learnt to trust God and His timing and also His AMAZING match-making skills. He knows me and that means He knows EXACTLY what I want even when I don't know.

For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother’s womb. I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. Psalms 139:13, 14

Committed, Are You?

People can't commit, yes that word: COMMIT, to another person under the covenant of marriage because they haven't committed to God. They have a 'back up' plan, they have a way out, they have a 'just in case'. Just in case God don't come through for me, just in case He somehow magnificently fails me I'll have somewhere else to go.

Why are we always looking for that something else? Why do we sing "I surrender all" but have a lil bit held on to? And all that lil bit is doubt; God might not come through, we sing how great God is but doubt that He will actually part our Red Seas, we sing how He is our everything but don't run to Him unless we're up the creek without a paddle, Jesus I need a paddle.

God hurts too, I don't care how powerful He is, I don't care how majestic He is, He cares and if He didn't care He wouldn't hurt, He hurts too and so many times carry on hurting Him with our thoughts, our actions, our back up plans, and everything else that we place above and before Him; idols.

But I hear God saying: "why can't you just trust Me? Wholly and totally? I sent My Son! I gave you the only pure thing I had left in this world, I gave you purity so you can be like Him. Pure. I did that, I manifested Myself in the flesh to wash you and make you whole and you think I'm gonna leave you hanging? You think I'm gonna leave you in the pit? Even Joseph was delivered out of the pit! You think I can't FEEL your pain? You think I don't know how much it hurts for you to go through tests, trials and tribulations? But how else am I going to show myself strong? How else am I going to flex my muscles and show you that I am The Lord, the same God, how else? I have a plan that's perfect, predestined before the foundations of the earth is what I said, why then, can't you just trust Me? All that you're asking Me for is nothing! I am MORE than able to do it, how much able are you to trust me?"

We can't commit to a person we can see until we commit to the Invisible Lover, Lord I don't feel like it; I'm mad at You but I'm gonna talk to you tonight, I'm gonna pray and I'm gonna listen to You through Your Word is equivalent to 'honey you upset me today but I'm gonna talk to you cuz we are one body, we share the same bed, I don't love you any less, I'm committed to you'
The ring on the left hand ring finger is equivalent to the crown, the crown of thorns laid upon Jesus' head, IT'S A COMMITMENT!!!

Be transformed by the renewing of your mind, don't think as the world does about marriage.

Ladies, the Lord told me that anything He gives me is supposed to draw me closer to Him, if He blesses me with a man, that man is supposed to draw me closer to The Lord, if he respects his God, he'll protect your purity! Him being pure also will know how important purity is. It's cliché, I know but a man is supposed to KNOW and value your worth. He supposed to take me closer to The Lord and that's not in his bed unless he put a ring on it. My job is to enable him to take me there, feed him, nurture him, love him, make him feel loved, put his shoes on if I have to, anything that makes him leading me easier, anything that makes it easier from him to hear from The Lord, he can't hear from God if He's worried about what's for dinner tonight, he can't hear from God if he's listening to his thoughts about housekeeping all the time, and yes I'll know God for myself but he has come to take me closer to God and I have to know that he's hearing from God, I have to KNOW that his thoughts, his heart is ALWAYS open to hear from God!!

Submission is the word used to describe it. Commitment is the word used to describe it. Trust, in The Lord in all your doings and He will do the rest.